4 Steps to Discovering Yourself


Perhaps it's the half way point of the year or you're on the merge of a quarter life crisis, you want to make your next move or something BIG has just happened that has sparked a reassessment of yourself. Whatever it may be, or if it's all of the above (🙋🏻it me), finding yourself and reflecting on you as a whole, holistic being shouldn't be a scary thought. In fact take it as an bright opportunity to ensure you are being the best you, being true to yourself and making the most of your days. 



Make light of misfortune

  1. What inspires me are individuals who take a point of trouble, turmoil, even tragedy and turn this around. If our life was full of ease and happy moments would our life be full and one of adventure and discovery? The troubling times in our life make the greatest moments so much more special and magical, because we actually had to live through it, to work for it, we had to try and fail before we were rewarded. When we face a hurdle, are we going to let it ruin us or are we going to embrace it, experience the trough to allow for a peak and see how it may be in fact be a wondrous opportunity of learning and discovery.



Accepting yourself

2. Being true to yourself means abandoning this romanticised image of you. It means reflecting about your past, how you grew up, what you may have chose to hide or repress, the darkness within ourselves. It also means accepting not only the emotional realities but accepting ourselves physically - the skin that we are in. Sometimes that means seeking help, chatting to an honest friend, breaking down barriers and resolving those issues with that person, or perhaps even seeking professional advice - totally opening up to experts who can listen to you without judgement. If we live a life overwhelmed or ignoring our insecurities, the light of our authentic self will not shine; and its that light that draws in every new person, each experience, and opportunity that aligns with our true fulfilment.



Finding the core of you

3. I believe a major factor in our lack of happiness is that fact that we do not chose to be happy. It's a choice, and you are responsible for it. Sometimes however we struggle to figure out or understand what truly brings us joy. We focus on what others want of us, or what society says is responsible and right. We get stuck in autopilot, going about our day to day and our busy lifestyles that we forget to make time for pure play. What did you enjoy doing as a child? If you could spend a day exactly as you wished - how would you spend it? Now, prioritise this. No one else can do this for you, except you. Go and play! What a glorious invitation to send and receive. Spin around in a field of palm trees. It's great, take it from me. 



Relying on yourself

4. As you are responsible for your own happiness you are also responsible for yourself and the paths you take. You can get as much advice, ideas and opinions from your pals or your family as you like, perhaps about the colour of the swimmers or the venue for your birthday ...but essentially you will not discover yourself unless you build the self-confidence and self-reliance to make your own decisions. Start trusting your own judgement and your gut. Build that muscle by using it again and again, and you will find your self-confidence and self-reliance grow and grow. You may make mistakes along the way, but the greater mistake will be sitting there in stagnation. Relying on yourself means taking responsibility for those life admin tasks always left on the bottom of your to-do list. If you dreaming about that apartment with ceiling to floor windows, cascading with natural light, that vase full of flowers in your art studio space where you work, and your next overseas trip it will not magically appear. You need to take responsibility for it; budget, save and plan for it.


{ Scalloped Swimsuit ~ HM, Sandals ~ Birkenstocks }

How to Achieve Your Goals with an Action Plan


Goals. Creating Action Plans for all areas of life.


I started this year on the highest of highs. "It is my year," I told myself. Not quite next level 'new year, new me', but I had that feeling that everything was going to be alright, great even! Not even a horoscope was needed to reaffirm my feelings, I knew in my heart of hearts, my gut. 


One week later though I was already crashing. That euphoric feeling quickly dissipated after I flossed for a few days, saved gelato to the weekend ...rather than a Tuesday Treat... and slept at reasonable bedtimes for a few days (see here for more sleep tips).


Then I started to feel that dreaded feeling. I started to feel that the year was getting away from me. I was falling behind, 6 days had passed and I had not done anything majorly contributive to my goals! I hadn’t coloured in all my boxes on my bullet journal tracker either. The goals and mantras I told myself, and my poor friends who dared listen to me ramble on, were not being ticked off. 


But lets be real friends, not even a week had passed and and I was already losing it a little bit. I put this intense pressure on myself to make the most of every hour, every day - feeling guilty to watch a bit of the Crown, feeling like any sun should be used for physical activity despite my body aching from to many incorrectly performed chaturangas, feeling terrible that I didn’t manage to post a few times in the first week. 


So I told myself to make Action Plans, the key to actually achieving your goals. Writing and following simple Action Plans support your goals to be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Timed = SMART. This anagram I hardly remember though, so I like to put it all down with pen and paper. A simple table that compartmentalises my goals and makes them manageable so I can physically tick away and feel great about my overall ongoing wellbeing, creativity and growth. So here’s how an Action Plan looks and works:


Click here or here for your copy!


Reflect on how you want to be the best version of you. What areas in your life do you want to be more successful and happy in? I wrote goals for:

  • Creativity

  • Self-care

  • Health

  • Career

  • Finance

  • Environments

  • Relationships


Looking at that list may seem like a lot to write and be accountable for …but I've made my Action Plan nice and small so all you have to do is add in a few notes. Take baby steps!! Achieve small specific tasks to keep the momentum going and keep your motivation strong! 




I looked at what was actually a priority, and realised nothing was in fact that urgent - some goals were of higher priority, however most of my goals were medium to low. Pay attention to what is most important rather than spending time on absolutely everything and being overwhelmed. 



What steps do you need to achieve the long-term bigger picture? Do you want to take great pictures for instance? You might want to sign up for a photography class on SkillShare, collaborate with a photographer by the end of the month, read the book “Read This If You Want to Take Great Photographs", go for a adventure in your neighbourhood every second Saturday with your camera in hand, or whatever you find fun!  


Success Measures

What do you actually want to achieve? If you’re trying to be fit and healthy... probably one of everyone's goals… what will make you successful? Is it meal prepping for two weeks and feeling happy and energised for the whole day. Is it attending 2 gym classes a fortnight with you sleeping 8 hours and feeling fitter?


By When

Plan a clear deadline. This way you have a date to work towards and you know when to your achieve steps by. Otherwise if you're like me you will most likely procrastinate and keep postponing the steps till later. 


Progress Notes

This is my favourite part. Monitor how you are going on your journey. Be proud of what you have achieved even if it is small, because you are one step closer to achieving the bigger goal! Before you learn to walk you crawl, before you learn to run you walk. Also before you learn to swim you doggy paddle. Just keep paddling and making baby steps, always. If you put unachievable expectations on yourself, you’re likely to keep failing and where will the motivation to keep trying? Remember to keep it small, reward yourself and reflect on the amazing mini-short term goals you are achieving. In the long run it will be so worth it!!


7 Steps for the Perfect DIY Epsom Salt Bath

  1. Fill bath with warm water

  2. Pour in a mix of 1/2 a cup of bi-carb soda & a generous handful of epsom salt

  3. Breathe in deeply and add 5 drops of lavender oil

  4. Read, reflect & wonder

  5. Listen to relaxing tunes.

  6. Drink a glass of water/white/red (Buy this bath caddy from Kmart!)

  7. Chill the f out and reduce stress levels

Happy Bathing!