Perhaps it's the half way point of the year or you're on the merge of a quarter life crisis, you want to make your next move or something BIG has just happened that has sparked a reassessment of yourself. Whatever it may be, or if it's all of the above (🙋🏻it me), finding yourself and reflecting on you as a whole, holistic being shouldn't be a scary thought. In fact take it as an bright opportunity to ensure you are being the best you, being true to yourself and making the most of your days.
Make light of misfortune
What inspires me are individuals who take a point of trouble, turmoil, even tragedy and turn this around. If our life was full of ease and happy moments would our life be full and one of adventure and discovery? The troubling times in our life make the greatest moments so much more special and magical, because we actually had to live through it, to work for it, we had to try and fail before we were rewarded. When we face a hurdle, are we going to let it ruin us or are we going to embrace it, experience the trough to allow for a peak and see how it may be in fact be a wondrous opportunity of learning and discovery.
2. Being true to yourself means abandoning this romanticised image of you. It means reflecting about your past, how you grew up, what you may have chose to hide or repress, the darkness within ourselves. It also means accepting not only the emotional realities but accepting ourselves physically - the skin that we are in. Sometimes that means seeking help, chatting to an honest friend, breaking down barriers and resolving those issues with that person, or perhaps even seeking professional advice - totally opening up to experts who can listen to you without judgement. If we live a life overwhelmed or ignoring our insecurities, the light of our authentic self will not shine; and its that light that draws in every new person, each experience, and opportunity that aligns with our true fulfilment.
Finding the core of you
3. I believe a major factor in our lack of happiness is that fact that we do not chose to be happy. It's a choice, and you are responsible for it. Sometimes however we struggle to figure out or understand what truly brings us joy. We focus on what others want of us, or what society says is responsible and right. We get stuck in autopilot, going about our day to day and our busy lifestyles that we forget to make time for pure play. What did you enjoy doing as a child? If you could spend a day exactly as you wished - how would you spend it? Now, prioritise this. No one else can do this for you, except you. Go and play! What a glorious invitation to send and receive. Spin around in a field of palm trees. It's great, take it from me.
Relying on yourself
4. As you are responsible for your own happiness you are also responsible for yourself and the paths you take. You can get as much advice, ideas and opinions from your pals or your family as you like, perhaps about the colour of the swimmers or the venue for your birthday ...but essentially you will not discover yourself unless you build the self-confidence and self-reliance to make your own decisions. Start trusting your own judgement and your gut. Build that muscle by using it again and again, and you will find your self-confidence and self-reliance grow and grow. You may make mistakes along the way, but the greater mistake will be sitting there in stagnation. Relying on yourself means taking responsibility for those life admin tasks always left on the bottom of your to-do list. If you dreaming about that apartment with ceiling to floor windows, cascading with natural light, that vase full of flowers in your art studio space where you work, and your next overseas trip it will not magically appear. You need to take responsibility for it; budget, save and plan for it.